Louna Hamad

Let’s debunk myths and end the fear once and for all, a woman’s dignity is her honesty, and there’s no evidence to prove virginity, just like there isn’t for the other gender (men). Here are four shocking things I heard and experienced as a Syrian woman:

The 1st shock:
Once, an anxious girl asked me how she could make sure she’s still a “virgin”. She was studying in another city and sharing a dorm room with other girls. She’d never had any sexual experiences, but she would have strange thoughts that her roommates sedated her and tore her hymen.
The 2nd shock:
I met a guy about a year ago, who claims that he’s very open-minded and has attended several sexual education courses, so according to him, he’s very aware of sexual health. Turns out he believes premarital screenings can determine a woman’s virginity (a total myth).
The 3rd shock:
I came across a girl’s post in a private- only women- Facebook group. She was freaking out because while walking on a street she had to jump over a hole in the ground. When she got home, she saw a couple drops of blood and wondered: “Am I bleeding because my hymen tore? Does that mean l am not a virgin anymore? Please, reassure me!”
The 4th shock:
In one of the gender-based violence workshops I used to run, I was shocked when a young man simply intervened with: “A woman who was raped is no longer suitable for marriage. She’s not a virgin anymore.” To my surprise, the majority of the group agreed with him.

This post isn’t about inclusivity and is only sharing about the experiences of the many Syrians that are “white passing” both abroad and in Syria. Likewise, the post sheds light on issues of colourism/prejudice within the Syrian community. Oftentimes abroad, light skinned/“white passing”/“European looking” Syrians are faced by racist or frustratingly ignorant comments because they look “too white to be Syrian!”.

According to the English Language Proficiency Index, Syria is listed in the very low proficiency category. Amongst all Arabic speaking countries in this (low proficiency) category, Syria fares the best, sitting at 89/112, and surpassing Yemen, Libya, Iraq, Saudi Arabia, Oman, Sudan, and Jordan. However, Syria is far behind Lebanon (34th) & Tunisia (52nd).
English, French, and Russian are taught in Syria. Despite that, on an educational and societal level, Syria lacks proficiency in foreign languages. Why is that? Here is a look at the history of teaching foreign languages in Syria.